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Why I'm Voluntarily Neglecting My Blog: 12 Days of Blogmas

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So my Blogtober Blog Share was really well received and I met an amazing bunch of new bloggers that I absolutely adore through it, so I decided that for my first Blogmas, I would do something a little bit different.

From what I understand, Blogmas is similar to Blogtober in that a blogger participating in it posts once a day throughout the month. My take this year focuses less on me posting content on my blog, and more on me posting on other people's sites!

Throughout the festive season (which in my head has already begun and will last until the end of December), I'm going to do (or at least try to do) 12 guest posts on 12 different blogs. 

I'm really excited about this because again, I'm meeting new people but I'm also getting to write outside of my niche which is really great! It also gets me out of my own head about blog views and stats, and lets me write free of the constant anxiety voice in my head that tells me nobody is reading what I'm writing.

This mig…

Dear NHS: I'll Fight for You, Will You Fight for Me?

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Before I write this post, I want to reiterate that there are many, many positives that come from seeking medical help for your mental health, and these are simply my own experiences. They do not reflect the entire NHS and I would absolutely hate to think that I had influenced anyone negatively or hindered them from seeking help. Although my experiences haven't always been great, the simple act of seeking help is a huge step in recovery and it's one I am forever glad that I took. 

The always wonderful Cara has a whole post on her positive experiences with mental healthcare as does the lovely Rosie who talks about her positive experiences with the mental health system

When I put my question to Twitter, I got the following responses: 

"Therapy wasn't great but the first step, seeing my GP, was brilliant. He listened properly, understood, told me his son had similar experiences, then explained the next steps and even how the antidepressants worked." @whatlydid.

"I…

Mental Health and Travel: It's Okay Not to be Insta Perfect All the Time

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With traveling taking off in popularity (pun intended) thanks to the rise in increasingly competitive deals, budget airlines and hotel offers, it's something that is open to a large portion of the population, and no longer reserved for those with an abundance of disposable income. Whilst this is fantastic news, it does open up a new depth of experience for the approximately 1 in 4 of us (UK statistics) that live with some form of mental illness, problem or disorder.
With popular social media platforms like Instagram and Twitter being the go-to places to share your favourite holiday pictures, it can portray, almost rigidly, travel as something idyllic, stress free and well - picture perfect. Whilst usually a predominantly positive experience, traveling does not always conform to this ideal and if you suffer from an underlying mental health condition, going away can prove to be difficult, and even triggering at times. On a recent trip to Budapest, we got delayed at Passport Control i…

How to Get Twitter Cards with Blogger / Blogspot Blogs

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Hello fellow blogger/blogspot users!

If you're anything like me, you may feel more drawn to links on Twitter that have some sort of preview - for instance the title of the post and an accompanying photograph - than links that are just text.

It bugged me for a while that if I wanted this effect when I shared my posts on Twitter I had to post the picture as well as the link, and it just wasn't the same.

So I sat and opened multiple different posts that frankly were often beyond my embarrassingly limited knowledge (i.e. next to nothing) about coding, HTML, blogs etc, and finally managed to get it so that when I post my blogspot links to Twitter, they have a link preview instead of just link text (special shout out Kim Six Blogger SupportOgbonge Blog, and AXLMULAT).

See this example of my post about my time in Budapest and how different it looked with and without a Twitter Card:




The answer is Twitter Cards.

So my aim in this post is to tell you how to get this!

Limitations: thi…

The Night My Life Didn't End

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Trigger warning: this post discusses self harm and suicide and although care has been taken to be as sensitive as possible, you may find the content triggering if you struggle with suicidal thoughts or self harm. 

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The night my life didn't end started as any other. I had spent the night with friends, laughing and joking. I was 16 - I look back now and laugh at the fact I thought that was practically an adult - and I thought I knew everything.

I had been struggling with self harm, and a whole host of mental health issues that were at the time nameless to me. I didn't know what they were, I just knew that it felt like monsters came for me in the dark, I knew that it felt like drowning, like rage. I knew that it made me want to die.

I had never made a serious attempt on my life before, but rather lingered on the edge of it. Each and every time I had come to that edge, each of these instances had something in common - a sense of deep, agonising despair.

But this night, this ni…

Changing Perceptions on World Mental Health Day

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Mild TWs: Eating Disorders, Self Harm, Suicide.

This is the very first World Mental Health Day on which I have been openly writing about my mental health (specifically, my experiences with mental ill health). Last year, I sat on the periphery of the discussions, not quite ready to engage but eager to support open conversation aimed at dismantling stigma and prejudice surrounding those of us with mental illness. Stigma can take many forms, and it's important that we continue to work together as a society to get rid of it for good.

Although discussions around mental health are often linked specifically to talking about mental illness, World Mental Health Day isn't just important for the 1 in 4 (UK statistics) of us who will experience mental ill health, it's an important day for all of us!

That's because we all have mental health, just like we all have physical health; "mental health" is a general term that is focused on our mental or emotional wellbeing, and …

Borderline, Recovery, and Finding Middle Ground.

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In my first blog post, An Apology to Those Caught in the Wake of My Mental Health, I talked about how in the past, I haven't always acted in ways I'm proud of, and that I've come to recognise how my behaviour at my lowest points were far from just self destructive.

I've changed a lot in the past 10 or so years, and it would be worrying if I hadn't. I'm not the same person I was at 16, 18, or even 20, and it's something I'm exceptionally thankful for. I look back on things that I used to do, or used to believe, and sometimes - often - it makes me cringe.

In the past, I have been guilty of being problematic in various ways that have little or nothing to do with my mental health. I've used ableist language, not realising the stigma it perpetuated or the harm it could cause. I was a proud anti-feminist for a time, and I had to gradually unlearn all the toxic, internalized misogyny I carried about with me. I was someone who thought people just wanted to …